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What have you changed your mind about? 
Submitted by chitoes.

BDSM
Ok, so I used to think that the Bondage Domination/Submission Masochist sexual lifestyle wasn't any big harm to society.  You know, live and let live.  If its not hurting anyone else...Besides, doesn't the Bible say that a wife is to submit to her husband?  Isn't that Domination\Submission?  But on hearing Dennis Prager talk about ultimate issues today and the appropriate expression of leadership and love, I began to understand the perversion of domination and submission.  As pedophelia is a mis-application of sexual expression toward a child; ie. verticle relationship via authority so is a d/s relationship taking what is meant to be horizontal peer relationship and making it verticle.

So imagine now, a home in which one parent is dominant over the other parent the same way a parent is supposed to be dominant over the child.  Punishments are doled out, encouragement is fostered for what the Dom desires.  What does this teach a child in that home about their own role in society when they become adult?  Either that they should rule the opposite sex or that they should worship the opposite sex. 

Dennis was discussing the poor leadership of leaders who desire above all to be loved by those they are meant to lead.  (A fine example is Bill Clinton) A leader must first be concerned with choosing the right behaviors, responses, etc., and a good leader will know more love from his followers than a leader who is concerned about the adoration of those who follow him.

In this light, you can begin to see the destructive nature of messing with the proper design of virtecle and horizontal relating.  We all understand that a child is unable to protect their innocence from the perverse sexual attention of an authority figure, but the same is true of any authority over their charge.  This is why the military frowns on mixed rank relationships.  This is why there are special laws in place for officers abusing their authority for sexual gratification.  Most companies have policies in place to protect themselves from lawsuits relating to interpersonal relationships between bosses/managers and their employees.

The Bible calls for a wife to be submissive to her husband.  It calls for a husband to love his wife and for the wife to respect her husband.  Does this mean that the design God had for married couples is d/s?  No and here's why; the relationship remains horizontal in the sense that both are submitted to the will of God.  This means that the husband has the leadership role and in his expression of love, sees to the well being of wife and children, but also considers the wife his partner in the struggle to survive and prosper.  The wife is meant to submit to her husband only because two heads can never agree on everything.  But she has two responsibilities that make her his equal, she is to advise her husband, and she is able to call on the authority they are both submitted to enabling her to correct strayed or flawed behavior in him.  He has the same ability to call her behavior into question and has the added responsibility to protect and make the final decision.  The child does not have these abilities due to inexperience and ignorance and so is totally dependant upon the goodwill of both of these authority figures.  To confuse these roles will only serve to devalue both genders and confuse the purpose God set us here for.

There is a difference between living this lifestyle and fantasizing or playing these roles as a form of foreplay but there are real dangers in the practice of sado-masochism.  A true masochist really doesn't know when is enough too much, neither does a true sadist.  But what worries me most about this practice is that the fantasy carries over into real life often times in very subtle ways that can still have a detrimental affect on the household and even the community.  Even though this kind of thing is usually done in private, conversations usually carry a posotive connotation and make it sound appealing to the uninitiate which starts private fantasies which escalate into experimentation, etc.,

Another concern is controversial idea that unacceptable practices make things more exciting.  Excitement vs. arousal is not a good long term goal.  Similar to the drug culture, it takes more perversity to attain the excitement level with each session.  New and more dangerous, more harmful practices begin to be less and less fulfilling as time goes on and the adventure wears off.  For true happiness in your sexlife, you are best to stick to traditional sedate practices.  Let the natural prevail and find fulfillment in the steadiness of your partner until the very end.

BDSM is a perversion as surely as pedophelia is.
References
Happiness is a serious problem     by Dennis Prager
Sexual Purity                               from Living Waters Ministries