DO NOT SETTLE. EVER. Wait until you find what you want. What is important to you is what you should have. Not everyone is looking for a "Fabio" with a buttload of money. Some of us are looking for someone that we love because we love THEM regardless of their bank account, or their 6-pack abs. That stuff is completely temporary. Heart, Soul, Character, Personality, these things stay. I was nearly married many times. And I waited until I was almost 40, as I saw many of my friends entering their 2nd 3rd or 4th Marriages. One of my Cousins on my Mom's side (The Puerto Rican Side) has a daughter, my second cousin once removed and she has been married 3 times. Blanca (my second cousin). Said to me, "You were smart to wait. I wish _____(her daughter) had done the same.

Yeah, this Post is about as helpful as that book, "The Rules"

Last time I checked civility and care were not effeminate traits. I think that you are dreadfully wrong on this point and would love to see some facts supporting it.

On women who do marry, many of their marriages suffer because of the unmet expectations of men and so find much less happiness in their relationships. There's a whole chapter in Dennis' book (Happiness is a Serious Problem) on the detrimental effects of unmet expectations.

It seems to me that this also supports the idea that women should not settle. Have you ever *tried* lowering your expectations? I seriously doubt that any woman could say -I guess he will do- and not regret that decision or resent him later.

On women who opt for career over family, The ultimate lack of fulfillment so many have found in successful careers.

My mother worked on her career and my father stayed home with us as a full-time parent and I have never heard either parent truly regret these decisions. My mother is happy with her career and has her family, just not in the -I made you dinner for thirty years- way. I think you are ridiculous to suggest that you know what will make every woman happy.

This brings me to the point of my article here. I am not Mr. Right and I'm certainly not Mr. Perfect. I AM Mr. Good Enough.

And now we do get to the point. I think you should change your standards to include me. I really could have done without all of the rest.

Reject the idea that you can have it all. You'll wear yourself out trying to get it and generally hurt everyone in your life by investing yourself too thin in each endeavor.

I can decide what priority I place on each aspect of my life, and putting a higher priority on one aspect does not mean I have to give up the others entirely. I think you are confused.

As much as you want what you want from your man, realize that he isn't a harry woman who should think, feel, and act like you would. Honestly, we don't even feel emotions in the same parts of our bodies. We are that kind of different, so are our needs, desires, and appreciation.

Speaking for all men is always a bad idea. No one likes broad generalizations. heh.

The man in your life that best meets the basic needs for a lifelong relationship is probably the best overall option for you.

I dont see how this excludes the idea of someone being absolutely right for me.

Mr. Good Enough is the guy that you feel makes your life better more than he makes it worse and believes the same about you in his life.

Entering a relationship with the idea that there will never be problems is naive, but entering a relationship because someone is -good enough- is just as naive. At some point, you will regret the fact that you decided to settle for someone. I can have my Mr. Right while still understanding that Mr. Right doesnt mean Mr. and Mrs. No Problems.

Thats my judgment.

summary: I think you should change your standards to include me.

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If I were a woman, I would settle for him <3

There is no evidence that women are going to leave the workforce in any great numbers. A recent Pew survey showed that most women with families wanted to work, although many of those in both full-time work and full-time at home would prefer part-time work. I suspect this is in part due to the difficulties in achieving some balance in the face of the family-unfriendly work policies in the US, and men's inability to adapt to the changes in the family.

When there is talk of compromise, it always seems to be women who are being asked to compromise. They already compromise by doing most of the household chores in most families. Can't men compromise? What about the recent report that showed that women were turned on by men doing housework?